Trapped, A Feeling We’ve Known Before

If you are like me, you find staying in your home to feel a bit like being trapped. It’s far too dangerous to venture outside, but you are desperately needing to leave. These feelings are too familiar and highly triggering for me, so I can only imagine what it must be like for someone who [...]

The Children of Covid-19

The coronavirus has impacted the world like no other disease in recent history. Thousands of people have contracted the disease with many dying in the most horrible way possible. There are shortages of supplies and have been systematic hoarding of grocery items and toilet paper. While the media has mainly focused on the highest impacted, [...]

Living Life with Adult Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

We have all been in the classroom with that one child who doesn’t seem to be able to sit still. He or she fidgets constantly and talks out of turn. Their behavior has left us pondering what is wrong. Or, as a child, you can remember trying to sit still and pay attention in class, [...]

Something Fun-The Coswell Cop

Some of you may not realize it, but I write short stories that are not related to mental health. Who knew! Right? Anyway, I wrote this short story a while back and wanted to share it to help you laugh to break up any boredom or anxiety you may be experiencing. So, enjoy it! Shirley [...]

Polyvagal Theory and Healing from Childhood Trauma

Those who live with the after-effects of severe childhood trauma understand well how it feels to be continually on the lookout for danger. Some experience this as hypervigilance feeling unsafe no matter who they are with or where they are in life. Polyvagal theory does a wonderful job of explaining these responses as well as [...]

Coping With Social Distancing and Isolation

I live alone in a three-story apartment building in Springfield Illinois, my state’s capital. Due to the Corona-19 virus threat, I have been locked down in my apartment hiding from the public attempting to keep from getting sick. I have been cooped up in this place since last Thursday (March 12, 2020) because I have [...]

How To Remain Calm and Well During The Corona-19 Crisis

If you have been watching the media, and I’m certain you have, you might be feeling overwhelmed by all the hoarding and warnings to remain in your home. Perhaps you even feel fearful, anxious, or worried because of the threat the virus is bringing to your country, state, or town. This article will discuss how [...]

This Shit’s Getting Serious

In honor of the run on toilet paper, I'd like to present some really big laughs! Some of the following pictures had me in stitches! Enjoy. Shirley      

Toxic Stress, ACEs, and Polyvagal Theory

Stress is a normal part of life that no one can fully escape. However, when stress becomes toxic, it can affect our lives in drastic fashions that may change our life’s outcome. Adverse childhood experiences tie into toxic stress and both can cause considerable harm to both children and again when these kids grow to [...]

Let’s Talk About the Fear Response and the Corona-19 Virus

I realize I have already posted about the coronavirus, but this is important information to understand. Please read on and I won't post about it again unless I feel the need outweighs my sense of good writing. No, this has nothing to do with DID or mental health but it can sure as hell affect [...]

Fear, Survivors, and the Corona-19 Virus

I would be remiss if I did not write a post concerning the Corona-19 virus and how it affects those who have severe mental health conditions like dissociative identity disorder. However, I am a firm believer that fear is not only detrimental to people with DID and other mental health disorders, but it is a [...]

Do You Know The Difference Between Selfishness and Self-Respect

People who have a mental health condition often find themselves in relationships that require too much of them to the point that they leave themselves out of the picture. This article will focus on the differences between being selfish and having the self-respect to take care of yourself first. It Seems Counterintuitive To many, it [...]

Shame, Blame, and Polyvagal Theory

How many times have we heard of people who were raped or otherwise violated being accused in their attacker's trial of not fighting or running away? The survivor, instead of receiving sympathy and justice, is instead bombarded inside the court and out with shame and blame. This article will examine the phenomenon of freezing during [...]

I’ve Been Very Busy

Once again I find myself needing to apologize for my absence. My life has picked up pace and I'm away from home a lot so that means my computer is inaccessible. However, the good news is I'm finally putting my life back together after working on DID and other issues since 1990. I know, I'm [...]

Poly What? Understanding Polyvagal Theory

I apologize for not being here as much as I should but I've been very busy. I'm volunteering now three days a week and writing for the CPTSD Foundation, another group (both paid gigs), and writing grants. I'm excited to be so busy but my blog has suffered. Please, be patient with me. I will [...]