Loving Yourself is Okay

Survivors of childhood trauma, especially those who have developed severe mental health conditions like dissociative identity disorder, borderline personality disorder, or major depressive disorder, sometimes hate themselves for who they are and where their lives have gone. To be clear, this is not something only relegated to survivors. If you took a survey on the [...]

In Honor of Our Military on Veteran’s Day

Thank you so much for your service and sacrifices to our military both present and past plus their families. I love and respect you. Shirley “The brave men, living and dead, who struggled here, have consecrated [this ground], far above our poor power to add or detract. The world will little note, nor long remember [...]

Who Am I If I’m Not a Traumatic, Dramatic Mess?

Author's Note: I apologize ahead of time for the tone of this piece. I had to write it in the third person so that I could post it elsewhere on the internet. Learning to live with a severe mental health condition known as dissociative identity disorder is something most of those who receive its diagnosis [...]

The Past is Gone, or Is It?

Living with severe mental health issues such as dissociative identity disorder can leave people floundering in their pasts. This happens because when dissociating, it is exceedingly difficult to tell which is the “now” and what is the past. However, if we are lucky, most people living with DID after working diligently with a therapist will [...]

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: the Similarities and Differences

There is some confusion about the differences and similarities between PTSD and CPTSD. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) sound alike but although they have some similar symptoms, they are completely different disorders. In this article, we shall examine together the differences and similarities of these two life-changing diagnoses. What is [...]

The Holidays are Upon Us

The holidays, like all potentially triggering days, are for some of us a time of sorrow and depression. Living with dissociative identity disorder can make these days of the year even harder because we experience flashbacks and fear. How can we make our holidays better? I'm going to discuss a few ways I have found [...]

A Post Straight From My Heart

First off, allow me to apologize to all my readers. I’ve been remiss lately in writing personal notes and pieces for you. I have an explanation but no excuse. I think that during my explanation you will understand and possibly forgive me for being otherwise occupied. I Have Moved and Live Alone After living within [...]

Boy’s Indoctrinations into Manhood in Society and the Damaging Effects of CPTSD

This article is a continuation of the series about the fight men must go through in dealing with society and mental illness. Almost from day one, boys born into modern society are bombarded with the idea that they are different from females. Not that females are not made to feel odd about themselves, but boys [...]

Living as a Man with CPTSD: My Brother’s Struggles

Although I am a woman and have only an outsider's view of how men suffer when it comes to toxic masculinity, I am going to write a rather personal piece. It’s the story of how my brother Mike is bombarded by society to be someone he is not and what that treatment does to him. [...]

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Men: How Men Express the Symptoms

For many years, mental health professionals and the general public alike have studied and applied symptoms of CPTSD as related to women. However, men react differently to the stressors that cause complex post-traumatic stress disorder and are often either shamed for complaining or are misdiagnosed. In this article, we shall examine how men express the [...]

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Men: The Ignored Problem

With the advent of the #MeToo movement, the public has been forced to examine the horrific tragedy of women suffering at the hands of sexual predators. We have learned through marches and very public testimony of the damage women receive when their boundaries and dignity as human beings is violated. However, there is another group [...]

The Final Six Symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

In this series, we have concentrated on the symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) and highlighted how each one changes lives. This article will focus on the final six symptoms: Feeling different from other people Feeling ashamed Feeling guilty Difficulty maintaining relationships Seeking out or becoming a rescuer Feeling constantly afraid Let’s examine together [...]

Just a Quick Reminder

No matter how hard you have fought this past week or will in the one ahead. No matter how far down you go, no matter who you are or where. Remember, YOU ARE NEVER ALONE.   Shirley  

Continuing the Series on The Symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: Symptoms 13-18

In September, we have been discussing the twenty-four most common symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). We’ve discovered in pieces one and two in this series how people living with the aftereffects of severe repeated trauma often experience sleep disturbances, flashbacks, and other problems. Recapping What We Have Covered As we have already learned, [...]

Still, I Rise

The poem Still, I Rise is so iconic and full of meaning that I have adopted it as my theme. I realize Ms. Angelou was speaking of her trials as a black woman in America, but her words can translate easily into how I feel about defeating my abusers and my abusive past. I challenge [...]