Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment Style: An Examination of Its Causes and How It Affects Adult Relationships

As our readers may remember, we are doing a series on attachment styles. However, if you are reading my blog for the first time, I will do a little bit of review of what attachment styles are, and why knowing yours vital to your adult relationships. John Bowlby and Attachment Theory  John Bowlby was a [...]

Overcoming the Fear of Intimacy

In the last few articles, we have explored together how childhood trauma negatively impacts the ability to form lasting and loving relationships with a partner. We’ve studied the impact that having trust issues, flashbacks, loneliness, body image problems and hypervigilance play in our avoidance of allowing closeness to others. In this article, let’s talk about [...]

The Turmoil of Avoidant Attachment Style 

Your life has been a string of relationships where you crave closeness but veer away from it almost as quickly as you find it. You discover you can’t settle into a relationship with a partner because he/she either does not live up to your expectations or they are going out to spend time alone with [...]

Announcing an Important Webinar on Misophonia for Parents

Are you a #parent of a child or teenager with misophonia and sound sensitivity? IF so, I'm happy to announce a webinar about parenting a child or teen who has the diagnosis of misophonia. Misophonia, meaning "hatred of sound", was proposed in 2000 as a condition in which negative emotions, thoughts, and physical reactions are triggered by [...]

Anxiety is Boiling in My Mind Right Now

This morning I’m going to write about my anxiety. I haven’t felt this horrible since the early 1990s when I was first in treatment for dissociative identity disorder. I constantly feel like I’m going to jump out of my skin and like something horrible is going to happen any minute. These feelings are compounded by [...]

Secure Attachment Style in Adulthood: How It Affects Your Life and Relationships

Have you ever wondered what is the motivating force it that relates to how you behave in intimate relationships and how you treat your children? Have you asked yourself how you choose the relationships that you attracted to? The leading theory in psychology today is called Attachment Theory, and for the next several weeks in [...]

The Painful Truth About Those Who Believe They are Multiples but are Not

I know I have been flooding your inboxes with some rather impersonal posts of late, so I decided to get up at 4 am (truthfully, I’ve had a med change and can’t sleep) and write about a topic that both worries and frustrates me. There are two diagnoses I’d like to cover in this piece [...]

The Influence and Neuroscience Behind Hypervigilance and It’s Effects on Forming Long-Term Relationships

Hypervigilance has been a painful part of my life since I was able to form an independent thought. If you have never experienced this phenomenon, then you do not understand how hypervigilance negatively affects the lives of those, like me, who know it intimately. In this piece, we shall discover together the definition of hypervigilance, [...]

Pulling it all together: Trauma-Informed Care

This month we have spent time exploring the basics of becoming trauma-informed. We've examined how mindfulness, neuroplasticity, and resiliency help form the tripod on which we begin to understand and defeat the consequences of surviving trauma. In this article, we are going to explore together how all the writings we’ve published this month fit into [...]

Psychotherapy: What to Expect and How to Find Help

In the last two posts, we have examined together some of the types of psychotherapy and the therapeutic alliance. In this piece, we shall explore what to and not expect in psychotherapy how to find the help you need. Important Qualities of a Great Therapist Just as there are many different types of therapists with [...]

Our Men are Not Okay: Male Victims of Childhood Trauma

A subject ignored by too many in the “Me Too” movement has been the sexual abuse perpetrated against boys and the after-effects such treatment has on them when they become men. In this article, we will examine the impact of childhood trauma on men. The Problem with Statistics Although the statistics tell us that 1 [...]

Tools to Build Resiliency and Aid in Healing from Complex Trauma

There is a vital part of healing survivors of adverse childhood experiences who now live with complex post-traumatic stress disorder can learn to help themselves. This piece of artillery is called resilience. Resiliency can help us overcome the life-altering effects of adverse childhood experiences or repeated trauma in adulthood. It can also speed up healing [...]

The Difficult Road to Intimacy: Living with Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Living with complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) is very challenging. It affects every aspect of the lives those who suffer under its symptoms. In this article, we are going to examine together a brief synopsis of CPTSD and how this disorder creates difficulty in forming and maintaining intimate relationships. An Overview of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress [...]

Five Types of Psychotherapy and How They Can Help You

When people think of psychotherapy, they often visualize Dr. Sigmund Freud sitting with a note pad with his client lying on a couch facing away from him. While it is true that there are still some professionals who utilize Freud’s form of psychoanalysis, there are many different types of psychotherapy that exist to aid in [...]

Things Aren’t Rosy Here, in Fact, They are Desperate

The stress of living with dissociative identity disorder is tearing me apart.   Let me start from the beginning. I have problems with seasonal affective disorder (SAD) that causes me to experience extremes of depression, anxiety, and a deep sense of dread. I’ve had this problem all my life and have tried very hard to [...]