I was reading my email this morning and came across an article that proved what I’ve said here about being invalidated in childhood. In the article on Psychology Today I found a piece backing up what we who were the victims of this kind of treatment have always known, it damaged us.
Granted, the article is speaking about borderline personality disorder, but that disorder, DID and many other brain disorders are very much related. They are not the same, but the backgrounds of each person who lives with them are simular.
Invalidated children grow up angry at themselves and the world. They grow up to be sad adult women and men.
Perhaps the world is waking up to the horrendous damage that can be caused by parents or other caregivers who are self-absorbed and living in their own world without giving their children the validation they need and deserve.
Let us hope.
“Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.” Danielle Bernock