Maladaptive Fear the Most Primitive Emotion

Fear is a necessary emotion that protects humans from harm by alerting us to danger and enabling us to respond through the fight/flight/freeze/fawn response. However, when fear becomes chronic it can disable people and cripple their lives. In this article, we shall examine fear, its source, and what can go terribly wrong when it is [...]

The Awesome Power of Meditation

When one thinks of meditation some will think of someone sitting cross-legged on the floor, with fingers in a funny position, repeating a simple word or sound such as “ommm”. However, meditation is much deeper and richer a practice than just the one practice encompassing many forms. This fourth article in the mindfulness, prayer, and [...]

Poetry from the Heart

Sometimes a poem is written that grabs at the heart and won't let go. Such is this poem that was written by a friend of mine, Jessica Baker. Jessica doesn't have dissociative identity disorder but she does have a related problem borderline personality disorder. Both come from traumatic histories and both involve similar damage to [...]

Contemplative Quotes

Anyone who reads my blog knows I like to end my pieces with quotes.  So, today I decided to throw together some of my favorite quotes and sayings for you today. As you read through them, don’t just scan through, and then do something else. Instead, contemplate on what each quote is saying and try [...]

The Mental Health Benefits of Prayer

Part Three in the Mindfulness, Prayer, and Meditation Series When the word prayer comes to mind one might conjure images of organized religious services. However, prayer is a much richer and more meaningful experience than only that experienced through contact with a church, synagogue, r mosque, or other places of worship. Indeed, there are many [...]

Acceptance Accelerates Healing

As I and many of my readers know, healing from dissociative identity disorder takes a long time. We struggle with so many issues that it takes time to wade through them even with an excellent therapist. God knows there are many things to accept in healing from a major mental health disorder. But perhaps the [...]

Mindfulness for Healing from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Most of us who live with dissociative identity disorder also live with complex post-traumatic stress disorder so I felt this piece apt for this blog site. Mindfulness for Healing from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder All human beings have a tendency to relive trauma even decades after it has ended. Those living with the effects of [...]

Who Speaks for the Children?

This piece concentrates on how much we as a society (and yes, we survivors too) concentrate so much on our own problems that we forget the weakest among us, the children. It is time to ask ourselves the hard questions and find the hard answers to the harm our children are experiencing every day that [...]

A Beautiful Piece of Amber

I wrote this story for my therapist Paula when she retired. I read it to her and gave her a book of my writing with this story in it. I thought I'd share it with you. I realize I may have published this here before but I have many more followers than I did when [...]

Be Careful with Making Those New Year’s Resolutions for 2020

I don’t want to be a party pooper but making new year’s resolutions can be hazardous to your health. While all of us should set goals for the year ahead, setting unrealistic ones can cause stress and disappointment. So, how do you set a goal that is realistic but that doesn’t harm you? That’s what [...]

Coping with the Uncertainties of the New Year

Change. It is one thing that no one can avoid, and that comes more often then we’d like. There will inevitably be changes coming in 2020, some we will like and many we will not. How do we find our way through the maze of changes that are coming into our lives in the next [...]

The Life-Limiting Process of Ruminating Thoughts

Living with the after-effects of childhood trauma is a daunting task. Healing can take decades and the scars remain for a lifetime. However, there are two human activities that make matters worse for those who wish to move on from an abusive childhood; ruminating. This article will examine ruminating thoughts to see what it entails [...]

Merry Christmas

  What happens to elves when they behave naughty? Santa gives them the sack. What kind of music do elves listen to? Wrap. What says 'Oh Oh Oh'? Santa walking backwards! Who delivers presents to baby sharks at Christmas? Santa Jaws! What’s the best Christmas Present? A broken drum - you can't beat it. Why [...]

The Positive Side of Family Estrangement and Creating a Family of Choice

This series on family estrangement may seem to be a strange topic to cover during the holiday season. Yet, being separated from family during Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s is a familiar occurrence for many survivors. The purpose of these articles is to offer support to all who come to this blogsite looking for hope. [...]