The Holidays are Upon Us

The holidays, like all potentially triggering days, are for some of us a time of sorrow and depression. Living with dissociative identity disorder can make these days of the year even harder because we experience flashbacks and fear. How can we make our holidays better? I'm going to discuss a few ways I have found [...]

A Post Straight From My Heart

First off, allow me to apologize to all my readers. I’ve been remiss lately in writing personal notes and pieces for you. I have an explanation but no excuse. I think that during my explanation you will understand and possibly forgive me for being otherwise occupied. I Have Moved and Live Alone After living within [...]

Boy’s Indoctrinations into Manhood in Society and the Damaging Effects of CPTSD

This article is a continuation of the series about the fight men must go through in dealing with society and mental illness. Almost from day one, boys born into modern society are bombarded with the idea that they are different from females. Not that females are not made to feel odd about themselves, but boys [...]

Living as a Man with CPTSD: My Brother’s Struggles

Although I am a woman and have only an outsider's view of how men suffer when it comes to toxic masculinity, I am going to write a rather personal piece. It’s the story of how my brother Mike is bombarded by society to be someone he is not and what that treatment does to him. [...]

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Men: How Men Express the Symptoms

For many years, mental health professionals and the general public alike have studied and applied symptoms of CPTSD as related to women. However, men react differently to the stressors that cause complex post-traumatic stress disorder and are often either shamed for complaining or are misdiagnosed. In this article, we shall examine how men express the [...]

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Men: The Ignored Problem

With the advent of the #MeToo movement, the public has been forced to examine the horrific tragedy of women suffering at the hands of sexual predators. We have learned through marches and very public testimony of the damage women receive when their boundaries and dignity as human beings is violated. However, there is another group [...]

The Final Six Symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

In this series, we have concentrated on the symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) and highlighted how each one changes lives. This article will focus on the final six symptoms: Feeling different from other people Feeling ashamed Feeling guilty Difficulty maintaining relationships Seeking out or becoming a rescuer Feeling constantly afraid Let’s examine together [...]

Just a Quick Reminder

No matter how hard you have fought this past week or will in the one ahead. No matter how far down you go, no matter who you are or where. Remember, YOU ARE NEVER ALONE.   Shirley  

Continuing the Series on The Symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: Symptoms 13-18

In September, we have been discussing the twenty-four most common symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). We’ve discovered in pieces one and two in this series how people living with the aftereffects of severe repeated trauma often experience sleep disturbances, flashbacks, and other problems. Recapping What We Have Covered As we have already learned, [...]

Still, I Rise

The poem Still, I Rise is so iconic and full of meaning that I have adopted it as my theme. I realize Ms. Angelou was speaking of her trials as a black woman in America, but her words can translate easily into how I feel about defeating my abusers and my abusive past. I challenge [...]

A New Series About Dissociative Identity Disorder

It has been quite a while since I authored an article about dissociative identity disorder (DID). The purpose of this article to explain to any new readers and those who are curious about what this enigmatic dissociative identity is and what it is not. Hint: It isn’t about someone having multiple personalities. Since DID is [...]

Am I Real? Do I Fit Into the World? What Makes Me Stay Here?

Having dissociative identity disorder, sometimes I wake up in the morning asking myself some interesting yet devastating questions. The three self-exploring questions I’ve mentioned in the title are the biggest and hardest to answer. During National Suicide Awareness Month, I felt it appropriate to ask and attempt to answer these questions and more. Am I [...]

Discussing Another Six Symptoms of CPTSD

We began last week looking at the symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). We learned together how life-altering the symptoms of this enigmatic disorder are to the everyday lives of those who live with them. Today we are going to survey more of the symptoms and how they can affect people’s lives. First, a [...]

A Closer Look at the symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Most of us who live with the diagnosis of dissociative identity disorder also have a high probability of showing the symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder. In fact, I would say the two diagnoses go hand in hand. That is NOT to say that everyone with CPTSD has DID, but it may be true the [...]

Healing from Dissociative Identity Disorder by Going Down the Road Less Taken

I wrote the following piece for people who either do not believe in or do not understand dissociative identity disorder. Please, feel free to share this information with your therapists, families, and friends. Shirley If any of our readers have seen the movies Sybil or Split, you may think you understand what dissociative identity disorder [...]