Beware, I’m Not a Broken Little Girl Any Longer

Those of you who read the material I write on this website know two things about me. One, I am a very strong survivor who has been through hell, and two, I am going through hell right now. It's on days like this one that I ask myself, will I ever heal from the brokenness [...]

Advocacy is A Vital Force for Change

Good morning everyone. It is only 3:47 am as I'm writing this post. Sigh. Such is the life of someone with DID. Anyway, I wanted to shoot out this post to let you know what I'm up to. Man, am I busy! Illinois House Mental Health Committee I'm going today to the capital of Illinois, [...]

Help Others to Help Yourself

The Picture Above Has Two Meanings First Meaning: When we encounter children we must remember to help them all we can to avoid or escape highly traumatic situations. If they are being abused or bullied, we need to do whatever is necessary to make sure they do not return to that situation. If they are [...]

How About Some Motivation!

Hi fellow healers! I'm sorry I haven't been writing these motivational posts very often lately, I've been otherwise occupied. Also, I realized that although many of you out there in Internet land enjoyed seeing them, you might have also been getting a bit bored from seeing them. So, I made an executive decision to post [...]

Men: The Forgotten Victims in the #MeToo Movement

I had a conversation recently with a man who is a survivor of severe childhood trauma. He had endured enough trauma to form dissociative identity disorder and then grew up to get involved in a painfully violent relationship. No, he was not the abuser in their partnership, she was. This person, whom I will call [...]

A Motivational Quote for You

Good Saturday everyone. I have decided to start adding motivational quotes and words of wisdom to my blog each day. Now, there will be days when either I'm too busy, too sick, or forget but I will try to brighten your day every day with a post. I love this quote by Carol Burnett. I [...]

The Opioid Crisis in the U.S.: Who Is To Blame?

I know you don't hear from me as often as you used to, that is because I've been very busy networking and writing for other sites.  I'll try my best in the future not to be a stranger, especially since the Seasonal Affective Disorder seems to have calmed down. I'm feeling much, much better and [...]

Names on a Gravestone

I get contemplative while washing dishes. I’m not sure why I just always have. Today while washing the noodles off my little nephew’s bowl and spoon from lunch, I stood with my hands in the warm soapy and water thinking. My mind wondered as it often does to mortality and how all humans have a [...]

A Nowhere Man?

I’ve written on this blog about the road less taken many times before. However, there are so many aspects and thoughts I have concerning it, I had to write another post. Some consider the somewhere they are reaching for to be heaven, some nirvana, some consider it blinking into nothingness. That’s not what I’m really [...]

The Sad Truth of Passive Suicidal Ideation and Behaviors

There is a type of suicide that people don’t talk about in the media or in support groups. It is often missed by clinicians and even close relatives aren’t aware of what is going on. It is called passive suicide, which is preceded by passive suicidal ideation. The Definition of Passive Suicidal Ideation Passive suicidal [...]

If You Live in the United States and Need Help, Please Call

The tragedy of domestic violence takes place every day in many households in the United States and around the world. It isn't just the poor or the rich who suffer, it is also men and women, gay and straight, college professors and dropouts who find themselves helpless. No one is immune from finding themselves in [...]

Change the Language to Change the Conversation–The Power of Speech

The words we use to describe ourselves have a huge impact on how we are treated. If we call ourselves by a term that means something negative, we will inevitably be treated in a negative fashion.   There are terms used to describe those of us who live with mental health conditions. However, those words, [...]

Being an Invisible Child

I am facing my forty-year graduating class anniversary dinner in August. Such an event usually causes people to look forward to speaking with and seeing the people with which you went to school.   For me the prospect brings back memories and emotions that are not lovely.   I can remember moving to Illinois from [...]

I’m Learning to Take Responsibility

  This piece may trigger anger or even rage in some of my readers, because I am going to speak on the subject of who is responsible for the actions of a DID system.  I don't believe in pussy-footing around, so be forewarned. Your toes might get stepped on. My hope is that after you [...]