Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment Style: An Examination of Its Causes and How It Affects Adult Relationships

As our readers may remember, we are doing a series on attachment styles. However, if you are reading my blog for the first time, I will do a little bit of review of what attachment styles are, and why knowing yours vital to your adult relationships. John Bowlby and Attachment Theory  John Bowlby was a [...]

Secure Attachment Style in Adulthood: How It Affects Your Life and Relationships

Have you ever wondered what is the motivating force it that relates to how you behave in intimate relationships and how you treat your children? Have you asked yourself how you choose the relationships that you attracted to? The leading theory in psychology today is called Attachment Theory, and for the next several weeks in [...]

The Influence and Neuroscience Behind Hypervigilance and It’s Effects on Forming Long-Term Relationships

Hypervigilance has been a painful part of my life since I was able to form an independent thought. If you have never experienced this phenomenon, then you do not understand how hypervigilance negatively affects the lives of those, like me, who know it intimately. In this piece, we shall discover together the definition of hypervigilance, [...]

Pulling it all together: Trauma-Informed Care

This month we have spent time exploring the basics of becoming trauma-informed. We've examined how mindfulness, neuroplasticity, and resiliency help form the tripod on which we begin to understand and defeat the consequences of surviving trauma. In this article, we are going to explore together how all the writings we’ve published this month fit into [...]

Our Men are Not Okay: Male Victims of Childhood Trauma

A subject ignored by too many in the “Me Too” movement has been the sexual abuse perpetrated against boys and the after-effects such treatment has on them when they become men. In this article, we will examine the impact of childhood trauma on men. The Problem with Statistics Although the statistics tell us that 1 [...]

Tools to Build Resiliency and Aid in Healing from Complex Trauma

There is a vital part of healing survivors of adverse childhood experiences who now live with complex post-traumatic stress disorder can learn to help themselves. This piece of artillery is called resilience. Resiliency can help us overcome the life-altering effects of adverse childhood experiences or repeated trauma in adulthood. It can also speed up healing [...]

The Difficult Road to Intimacy: Living with Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Living with complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) is very challenging. It affects every aspect of the lives those who suffer under its symptoms. In this article, we are going to examine together a brief synopsis of CPTSD and how this disorder creates difficulty in forming and maintaining intimate relationships. An Overview of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress [...]

Trauma-Informed Care, Neuroplasticity and Mindfulness

The entire series in January will be focusing on how trauma-informed care can help adults overcome the effects of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs). However, to understand the process of healing, we must first explore what happens to the brains of traumatized children, and how neuroplasticity and mindfulness aid us in healing. Childhood Trauma Who is [...]

Trauma-Informed Care

Many of you, like we who support in various ways the CPTSD Foundation, have survived one or more traumatic events. By traumatic events I offer the following definition I found on the Healthline website: “A traumatic event is an incident that causes physical, emotional, spiritual, or psychological harm. The person experiencing the distressing event may feel threatened, anxious, or frightened as [...]

Overcoming Shame to Live a New Life

In the past few posts, we have examined the different types of shame and the malignant effects it can have on our brains. In this piece, we are going to explore the different ways that we can overcome shame to become who were always meant to be before shame drove us into our self-imposed cages. [...]

The Neuroscience of Shame

In the previous post, we examined the different types of shame, but what happens in the brain to make shame benign or toxic? What parts of our brains are injured by chronically being shamed by our caregivers, and how does that change who we are? These are a few of the questions I will attempt [...]

Shame

Shame; the feeling that you have done something wrong that goes against your core values. Shame is a normal and natural human emotion that is not harmful. In our series for February, the CPTSD Foundation is offering a new group of articles where we explore together the different types of shame, and how they define [...]

Intrusive Thoughts

Intrusive thoughts, what are they? Are they alters crying out for attention or creations of our brain because of cross-wiring? Intrusive thoughts are something all humans experience, but when coupled with a mental health condition, they can quickly become deadly. So, let’s examine together what these crappy things are, their causes and some possible ways [...]

Help Others to Help Yourself

The Picture Above Has Two Meanings First Meaning: When we encounter children we must remember to help them all we can to avoid or escape highly traumatic situations. If they are being abused or bullied, we need to do whatever is necessary to make sure they do not return to that situation. If they are [...]

Harnessing Fear to Win

Hi everyone. I apologize for not being here yesterday, but my uncle Arthur was acting up and I was in a lot of pain. Therefore, I took care of myself. I also wanted to explain why I had reposted the article Why Our Men Are Not Okay. I originally posted it on a weekday and [...]