Sexual Orientation and Dissociative Identity Disorder; It’ Complicated

One of the most recognizable symptoms of dissociative identity disorder (DID) is the presence of alternates or as many call them, “others”. The alters in a dissociated system may have different tastes in clothing, foods, and friends. However, there is one taste often avoided when speaking of the differences between alters, sexual orientation. How Does [...]

What is the Purpose of My Life?

Thank you for this opportunity to showcase what I feel most passionate about, and how these deep emotional ties impact my writing. I know I have published some hard stuff lately and thought perhaps it was time for you to know more about what motivates me. Yes, the previous piece that talked about my deepest [...]

The Eeyore Complex

Most are familiar with the character Eeyore, a friend of Christopher Robins in the Winnie the Pooh Tales. He is negative about everything. "Bad things always happen to me.” “Why me?" “My tail fell off again.” We all suffer sometimes from bouts of the Eeyore complex. I myself have been an Eeyore in my past, [...]

The Importance of Accepting Life on Life’s Terms

Life isn’t fair or easy for anyone, I’ve established that as my main theme in life today. However, I spent many decades trying to force life to move faster, slower, bend or unbend to match my idea of perfection. Then the truth hit me like the proverbial ton of bricks, I need to accept life [...]

Contacting Me

Hey, all. If you want to keep in touch, ask a question, and stay in touch you can email me anytime. I'm including my email address. MY EMAIL You can ask me anything because, hey, I've laid it all out there bare anyway. So, don't be shy and keep watching for new articles. I'm writing [...]

The Resentment When Healing from Dissociative Identity Disorder

I think most of us have felt the sting of resentment. In fact, I would venture to say every human being who has ever, is now, or will ever live will agree, we all have. However, when you are dealing with the horrific truths that come after diagnosis when you realize what happened to cause [...]

The Living Hell of Emotional Flashbacks

In our last article, we discussed the differences between post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). One of these dissimilarities involves the living hell of emotional flashbacks. In this piece, we shall examine the definition of emotional flashbacks and ways to manage them. Should you become overwhelmed during this piece, please stop [...]

Flashbacks; How I’ve Learned to Cope

I have posted the first article in a series that I’m writing for the CPTSD Foundation about flashbacks. Today I thought I’d tell you about my own experiences with these furrows back in time. Everyone Experiences Flashbacks Before I go into detail about my own experiences with flashbacks, let me reassure you that because you [...]

The Danger of the Wave

I wrote and posted this a few years ago. I have updated it and taken out my formatting issues. I hope you don't mind my repeating my piece, The Danger of the Wave.  There have been a lot of high-profile people dying by suicide in the past year or so. Kurt Cobain, Chester Bennington, Kate [...]

The History of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, and an Introduction to Emotional Flashbacks

Hardwired, our brains react viscerally to traumatic events, and then stores in our central nervous systems emotions where we feel endangered for similar future events. Emotional flashbacks, experienced by those living with complex post-traumatic stress disorder, are sudden and horrific, often prolonged, attacks from the past of highly traumatic events. These flashbacks are different than [...]

Looking for Love in a Therapist’s Office

Many of my readers have lived through highly traumatic childhoods where love and affection were missing and in their stead was fear and abuse. So, when we entered our therapist’s office for the first time, we entered not as whole and confident adults, but rather as hurting children looking for what we did not receive [...]

I’m Offering Help Finding Research About Dissociative Identity Disorder and Other Mental Health Problems

If you have ever gone to the internet to search for information written by researchers about dissociative identity disorder, you'll find what I did. Thousands of papers written on different aspects of DID. To be sure, the page after page of research papers is fascinating, but most people do not want to take the time [...]

Discovering Your Abilities and Your Ideal Employment

Finding a job that you enjoy can be difficult if you live with a mental health condition like complex post-traumatic disorder. This is especially true when you need to drop out of the workforce to do good self-care. I understand because I have been on disability since 1995 and have only recently thought about returning [...]

Working with a Mental Health Disorder and The Americans with Disabilities Act

On July 26, 1990, President George H. W. Bush signed into law the American with Disabilities Act (ADA). This law was a huge leap forward in helping the people of the United States facing mobility and other disabling conditions conquer many of the barriers we face in everyday life. What better way to celebrate Mental [...]

To Those Who Mourn on Mother’s Day

Many of us in the DID community live day to day with broken hearts. Betrayed by our mothers, we see the third Sunday in May as a day to mourn what we should have had as children but didn’t. So, today I’m going to write about Mother’s Day, beginning with the tragedy of the one [...]