The Help That Never Came

One of the downfalls of getting into the research about dissociative identity disorder is reading things that make you cry. I recently had this experience while reading a paper on how having a caring adult intervene when a child experiences abuse is it can mitigate them from forming a mental health disorder. This includes DID. [...]

End Child Abuse to Stop Many Mental Health Disorders From Forming

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A Recap: Attachment Styles

In the series on attachment styles, we have covered much ground. We’ve learned about the four basic attachment styles, secure, avoidant, anxious and disorganized and how they affect adult lives. We have also covered a few of the mental health issues that can result from poor parenting. This article is the capstone of the series, [...]

Having a Disorganized Attachment Style Negatively Impacts Lives

Our readers may remember, we are doing a series on attachment styles. While no one fits neatly into one category or the other, we all have one that is dominant over the others. Attachment styles form in childhood and impact us the rest of our lives. That does not mean you cannot change how you [...]

Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment Style: An Examination of Its Causes and How It Affects Adult Relationships

As our readers may remember, we are doing a series on attachment styles. However, if you are reading my blog for the first time, I will do a little bit of review of what attachment styles are, and why knowing yours vital to your adult relationships. John Bowlby and Attachment Theory  John Bowlby was a [...]

The Influence and Neuroscience Behind Hypervigilance and It’s Effects on Forming Long-Term Relationships

Hypervigilance has been a painful part of my life since I was able to form an independent thought. If you have never experienced this phenomenon, then you do not understand how hypervigilance negatively affects the lives of those, like me, who know it intimately. In this piece, we shall discover together the definition of hypervigilance, [...]

Our Men are Not Okay: Male Victims of Childhood Trauma

A subject ignored by too many in the “Me Too” movement has been the sexual abuse perpetrated against boys and the after-effects such treatment has on them when they become men. In this article, we will examine the impact of childhood trauma on men. The Problem with Statistics Although the statistics tell us that 1 [...]

The Difficult Road to Intimacy: Living with Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Living with complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) is very challenging. It affects every aspect of the lives those who suffer under its symptoms. In this article, we are going to examine together a brief synopsis of CPTSD and how this disorder creates difficulty in forming and maintaining intimate relationships. An Overview of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress [...]

Beware, I’m Not a Broken Little Girl Any Longer

Those of you who read the material I write on this website know two things about me. One, I am a very strong survivor who has been through hell, and two, I am going through hell right now. It's on days like this one that I ask myself, will I ever heal from the brokenness [...]

I’m Opening a Lemonade Stand

Hi everyone. I've been sick this past week AGAIN and haven't been capable of writing much. But when I saw this picture on Twitter, I had to use it and comment. All humanity lives in our own bubbles. We have opinions about others and we exist within the confines of how we define who we [...]

Advocacy is A Vital Force for Change

Good morning everyone. It is only 3:47 am as I'm writing this post. Sigh. Such is the life of someone with DID. Anyway, I wanted to shoot out this post to let you know what I'm up to. Man, am I busy! Illinois House Mental Health Committee I'm going today to the capital of Illinois, [...]

Female Predators of Sexual Abuse; The Silent Crisis

One of the hardest realities our society faces, the fact that women sexually molest children, makes us shudder.

Men: The Forgotten Victims in the #MeToo Movement

I had a conversation recently with a man who is a survivor of severe childhood trauma. He had endured enough trauma to form dissociative identity disorder and then grew up to get involved in a painfully violent relationship. No, he was not the abuser in their partnership, she was. This person, whom I will call [...]

Your Motivation: Keep Walking

Hey everyone, welcome to a new day. The ads are gone! Hurray! I had a glitch with my WordPress account but they have a marvelous support staff and they fixed it for me. Yep, life is a neverending string of events, some are good and some are bad. Dealing with the ups and downs of [...]

Your Motivation for February 4, 2019

Hello and welcome to Monday. Anxiety is definitely a normal part of being human. Anxiety serves us in helping us to avoid danger and respond by either running away, freezing to avoid detection, or fight our way out of the situation. However, what happens when anxiety overwhelms our lives and we can't cope? I think [...]