Overcoming the Fear of Intimacy

In the last few articles, we have explored together how childhood trauma negatively impacts the ability to form lasting and loving relationships with a partner. We’ve studied the impact that having trust issues, flashbacks, loneliness, body image problems and hypervigilance play in our avoidance of allowing closeness to others. In this article, let’s talk about [...]

When Fantasy is Your Only Friend

***Possibly Triggering Material*** Growing up in an abusive home, children often find they have nowhere to go and no place to turn. So, they turn to their imaginations to help them cope. I’m writing this post out of my own experiences with the pretend world I lived in as a kid. I’ll try not to [...]

Dry Wells

Being open to other people about the severe abuse I suffered as a child has been very challenging.  At first, I wore a sign on my forehead that said, “incest” and when I shook hands with someone I would announce, “Hi, my name is Shirley and I’m a survivor of severe childhood trauma.” I am [...]