Have Patience with Us, We are Experiencing Growing Pains

I’ve noticed my website has lost a ton of readers in these past few months. At first, I put it off to my being ill, but I think it is a symptom of, perhaps, something a little more.   I realize that to many who live in other countries, it looks like the population of [...]

Thank You for Caring

Well, I've been ill and incapable of holding a whole thought let alone writing so my stats on my site have dropped significantly. I was receiving a reading rate of over 122 per day, now I'm lucky to get 20. I am very glad you who still frequent this site have stuck by me. Your [...]

Working with a Mental Health Disorder and The Americans with Disabilities Act

On July 26, 1990, President George H. W. Bush signed into law the American with Disabilities Act (ADA). This law was a huge leap forward in helping the people of the United States facing mobility and other disabling conditions conquer many of the barriers we face in everyday life. What better way to celebrate Mental [...]

To Those Who Mourn on Mother’s Day

Many of us in the DID community live day to day with broken hearts. Betrayed by our mothers, we see the third Sunday in May as a day to mourn what we should have had as children but didn’t. So, today I’m going to write about Mother’s Day, beginning with the tragedy of the one [...]

The Help That Never Came

One of the downfalls of getting into the research about dissociative identity disorder is reading things that make you cry. I recently had this experience while reading a paper on how having a caring adult intervene when a child experiences abuse is it can mitigate them from forming a mental health disorder. This includes DID. [...]

End Child Abuse to Stop Many Mental Health Disorders From Forming

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My Take on Why Mental Health Awareness Month is Important

In my last piece, I got real with you about how I was feeling mentally. I was in crisis and had been for several weeks. The response I received was very interesting. Being a nerd, I found the lack of response, how people chose to ignore what I had said from the heart as fascinating. [...]

Finding A Career Despite Having a Disabling Mental Health Condition

There is no doubt that working has many benefits to those of us diagnosed with a mental health issue. Being among people and socializing rather than relegating ourselves to lying on the couch watching television is only one of them. In this piece, we are going to take a stroll down the path to employment [...]

May I Vent for a Minute? Today I Need to Be Honest

Sitting here alone in the apartment, I am riddled with emotions that I do not know what to do with. It is a rare for me to have the apartment to myself and it gives me a chance to catch my breath and try to figure out what I’m going to do and how I’m [...]

Finding Self-Respect Whether You are Employed or Not

Humans acquire their self-worth from many sources. Beginning in childhood, our parents should be the first to show us both verbally and non-verbally that we are worthwhile and valuable. However, people living with the after-effects of childhood trauma and in the present with severe mental health disabilities did not have the reassurances. This lack of [...]

Reclaiming a Bucket List from the Abyss to Happiness

We all have dreams. I’m no exception. When I was a young woman, I dreamed of a much different life than I have now. Who doesn’t? I had a bucket list of things I wanted to do before I died, but sometimes life takes your dreams and aspirations and shoves them into an abyss. Let’s [...]

A Recap: Attachment Styles

In the series on attachment styles, we have covered much ground. We’ve learned about the four basic attachment styles, secure, avoidant, anxious and disorganized and how they affect adult lives. We have also covered a few of the mental health issues that can result from poor parenting. This article is the capstone of the series, [...]

Having a Disorganized Attachment Style Negatively Impacts Lives

Our readers may remember, we are doing a series on attachment styles. While no one fits neatly into one category or the other, we all have one that is dominant over the others. Attachment styles form in childhood and impact us the rest of our lives. That does not mean you cannot change how you [...]

Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment Style: An Examination of Its Causes and How It Affects Adult Relationships

As our readers may remember, we are doing a series on attachment styles. However, if you are reading my blog for the first time, I will do a little bit of review of what attachment styles are, and why knowing yours vital to your adult relationships. John Bowlby and Attachment Theory  John Bowlby was a [...]

Overcoming the Fear of Intimacy

In the last few articles, we have explored together how childhood trauma negatively impacts the ability to form lasting and loving relationships with a partner. We’ve studied the impact that having trust issues, flashbacks, loneliness, body image problems and hypervigilance play in our avoidance of allowing closeness to others. In this article, let’s talk about [...]