Flashbacks; How I’ve Learned to Cope

I have posted the first article in a series that I’m writing for the CPTSD Foundation about flashbacks. Today I thought I’d tell you about my own experiences with these furrows back in time. Everyone Experiences Flashbacks Before I go into detail about my own experiences with flashbacks, let me reassure you that because you [...]

The History of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, and an Introduction to Emotional Flashbacks

Hardwired, our brains react viscerally to traumatic events, and then stores in our central nervous systems emotions where we feel endangered for similar future events. Emotional flashbacks, experienced by those living with complex post-traumatic stress disorder, are sudden and horrific, often prolonged, attacks from the past of highly traumatic events. These flashbacks are different than [...]

Looking for Love in a Therapist’s Office

Many of my readers have lived through highly traumatic childhoods where love and affection were missing and in their stead was fear and abuse. So, when we entered our therapist’s office for the first time, we entered not as whole and confident adults, but rather as hurting children looking for what we did not receive [...]

An Inconvenient Truth; the Nasty Treatment of Folks Living with the Diagnosis by Medical Professionals

Once again, my health has failed me. A week ago, I became ill with a virus my brother brought home. He got well in three days, I have sick for a week now. Whatever the virus was that began my recent problems, it morphed into a horrible case of bronchitis. I decided yesterday (Wednesday, May [...]

Finding A Career Despite Having a Disabling Mental Health Condition

There is no doubt that working has many benefits to those of us diagnosed with a mental health issue. Being among people and socializing rather than relegating ourselves to lying on the couch watching television is only one of them. In this piece, we are going to take a stroll down the path to employment [...]

A Recap: Attachment Styles

In the series on attachment styles, we have covered much ground. We’ve learned about the four basic attachment styles, secure, avoidant, anxious and disorganized and how they affect adult lives. We have also covered a few of the mental health issues that can result from poor parenting. This article is the capstone of the series, [...]

Having a Disorganized Attachment Style Negatively Impacts Lives

Our readers may remember, we are doing a series on attachment styles. While no one fits neatly into one category or the other, we all have one that is dominant over the others. Attachment styles form in childhood and impact us the rest of our lives. That does not mean you cannot change how you [...]

Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment Style: An Examination of Its Causes and How It Affects Adult Relationships

As our readers may remember, we are doing a series on attachment styles. However, if you are reading my blog for the first time, I will do a little bit of review of what attachment styles are, and why knowing yours vital to your adult relationships. John Bowlby and Attachment Theory  John Bowlby was a [...]

The Turmoil of Avoidant Attachment Style 

Your life has been a string of relationships where you crave closeness but veer away from it almost as quickly as you find it. You discover you can’t settle into a relationship with a partner because he/she either does not live up to your expectations or they are going out to spend time alone with [...]

Secure Attachment Style in Adulthood: How It Affects Your Life and Relationships

Have you ever wondered what is the motivating force it that relates to how you behave in intimate relationships and how you treat your children? Have you asked yourself how you choose the relationships that you attracted to? The leading theory in psychology today is called Attachment Theory, and for the next several weeks in [...]

Pulling it all together: Trauma-Informed Care

This month we have spent time exploring the basics of becoming trauma-informed. We've examined how mindfulness, neuroplasticity, and resiliency help form the tripod on which we begin to understand and defeat the consequences of surviving trauma. In this article, we are going to explore together how all the writings we’ve published this month fit into [...]

Psychotherapy: What to Expect and How to Find Help

In the last two posts, we have examined together some of the types of psychotherapy and the therapeutic alliance. In this piece, we shall explore what to and not expect in psychotherapy how to find the help you need. Important Qualities of a Great Therapist Just as there are many different types of therapists with [...]

Our Men are Not Okay: Male Victims of Childhood Trauma

A subject ignored by too many in the “Me Too” movement has been the sexual abuse perpetrated against boys and the after-effects such treatment has on them when they become men. In this article, we will examine the impact of childhood trauma on men. The Problem with Statistics Although the statistics tell us that 1 [...]

Tools to Build Resiliency and Aid in Healing from Complex Trauma

There is a vital part of healing survivors of adverse childhood experiences who now live with complex post-traumatic stress disorder can learn to help themselves. This piece of artillery is called resilience. Resiliency can help us overcome the life-altering effects of adverse childhood experiences or repeated trauma in adulthood. It can also speed up healing [...]

The Difficult Road to Intimacy: Living with Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Living with complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) is very challenging. It affects every aspect of the lives those who suffer under its symptoms. In this article, we are going to examine together a brief synopsis of CPTSD and how this disorder creates difficulty in forming and maintaining intimate relationships. An Overview of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress [...]