Something Fun-The Coswell Cop

Some of you may not realize it, but I write short stories that are not related to mental health. Who knew! Right? Anyway, I wrote this short story a while back and wanted to share it to help you laugh to break up any boredom or anxiety you may be experiencing. So, enjoy it! Shirley [...]

Polyvagal Theory and Healing from Childhood Trauma

Those who live with the after-effects of severe childhood trauma understand well how it feels to be continually on the lookout for danger. Some experience this as hypervigilance feeling unsafe no matter who they are with or where they are in life. Polyvagal theory does a wonderful job of explaining these responses as well as [...]

Coping With Social Distancing and Isolation

I live alone in a three-story apartment building in Springfield Illinois, my state’s capital. Due to the Corona-19 virus threat, I have been locked down in my apartment hiding from the public attempting to keep from getting sick. I have been cooped up in this place since last Thursday (March 12, 2020) because I have [...]

This Shit’s Getting Serious

In honor of the run on toilet paper, I'd like to present some really big laughs! Some of the following pictures had me in stitches! Enjoy. Shirley      

Toxic Stress, ACEs, and Polyvagal Theory

Stress is a normal part of life that no one can fully escape. However, when stress becomes toxic, it can affect our lives in drastic fashions that may change our life’s outcome. Adverse childhood experiences tie into toxic stress and both can cause considerable harm to both children and again when these kids grow to [...]

Do You Know The Difference Between Selfishness and Self-Respect

People who have a mental health condition often find themselves in relationships that require too much of them to the point that they leave themselves out of the picture. This article will focus on the differences between being selfish and having the self-respect to take care of yourself first. It Seems Counterintuitive To many, it [...]

I’ve Been Very Busy

Once again I find myself needing to apologize for my absence. My life has picked up pace and I'm away from home a lot so that means my computer is inaccessible. However, the good news is I'm finally putting my life back together after working on DID and other issues since 1990. I know, I'm [...]

Poly What? Understanding Polyvagal Theory

I apologize for not being here as much as I should but I've been very busy. I'm volunteering now three days a week and writing for the CPTSD Foundation, another group (both paid gigs), and writing grants. I'm excited to be so busy but my blog has suffered. Please, be patient with me. I will [...]

Eating Disorders are Not Just for Women

Society has stereotypically viewed eating disorders as only affecting teenage girls and women. However, one in three people who form an eating disorder (ED) are boys or men. This article will examine how EDs affect male victims and how they can defeat these life-threatening disorders. The Problem There are at least 30 million people who [...]

The Health Consequences of Eating Disorders

This is part two in my five-part series on eating disorders I am writing for the CPTSD Foundation.  Eating disorders (EDs) are insidiously destroying some lives and greatly restricting others. However, eating in secret and feeling guilt are not the only consequences of having an eating disorder. There is a myriad of other health problems [...]

The Wisdom of Lao Tzu

I decided to write a short post using the wisdom of Lao Tzu. Lao Tzu was a Chinese philosopher who is thought to have lived in the 6th century BCE and founded the philosophy of Taoism. Lao Tzu also was the author of Tao-Te-Ching, a work exemplifying thought. There are those who believe that Lao [...]

Eating Disorders is A Hard Subject

I've noticed that there hasn't been much response to my piece about eating disorders. To be honest, EDs are a very tough subject to think about, let alone read. However, I've never been one for hiding my head in the sand so I decided (with the help of Athena Moberg from the CPTSD Foundation) to [...]

The Introduction to Eating Disorders

This piece is the first of five pieces I am writing for the CPTSD Foundation I'll be posting this month (February 2020) about eating disorders. The term eating disorders conjures in the minds of many pictures of boy crazy teenagers who want to slim down for a prom dress or something only women have. However, [...]

The Physiology of Fear

Recently, I wrote a piece about maladaptive fear and someone asked me to explain the physiology of it. Although I am certainly not an expert, and no one fully understands the physiology of fear, I shall endeavor to do my best to explain it in detail. Please, forgive me if I get something wrong and [...]

Maladaptive Fear the Most Primitive Emotion

Fear is a necessary emotion that protects humans from harm by alerting us to danger and enabling us to respond through the fight/flight/freeze/fawn response. However, when fear becomes chronic it can disable people and cripple their lives. In this article, we shall examine fear, its source, and what can go terribly wrong when it is [...]