The Awesome Power of Meditation

When one thinks of meditation some will think of someone sitting cross-legged on the floor, with fingers in a funny position, repeating a simple word or sound such as “ommm”. However, meditation is much deeper and richer a practice than just the one practice encompassing many forms. This fourth article in the mindfulness, prayer, and [...]

Poetry from the Heart

Sometimes a poem is written that grabs at the heart and won't let go. Such is this poem that was written by a friend of mine, Jessica Baker. Jessica doesn't have dissociative identity disorder but she does have a related problem borderline personality disorder. Both come from traumatic histories and both involve similar damage to [...]

Contemplative Quotes

Anyone who reads my blog knows I like to end my pieces with quotes.  So, today I decided to throw together some of my favorite quotes and sayings for you today. As you read through them, don’t just scan through, and then do something else. Instead, contemplate on what each quote is saying and try [...]

Acceptance Accelerates Healing

As I and many of my readers know, healing from dissociative identity disorder takes a long time. We struggle with so many issues that it takes time to wade through them even with an excellent therapist. God knows there are many things to accept in healing from a major mental health disorder. But perhaps the [...]

Who Speaks for the Children?

This piece concentrates on how much we as a society (and yes, we survivors too) concentrate so much on our own problems that we forget the weakest among us, the children. It is time to ask ourselves the hard questions and find the hard answers to the harm our children are experiencing every day that [...]

A Beautiful Piece of Amber

I wrote this story for my therapist Paula when she retired. I read it to her and gave her a book of my writing with this story in it. I thought I'd share it with you. I realize I may have published this here before but I have many more followers than I did when [...]

Be Careful with Making Those New Year’s Resolutions for 2020

I don’t want to be a party pooper but making new year’s resolutions can be hazardous to your health. While all of us should set goals for the year ahead, setting unrealistic ones can cause stress and disappointment. So, how do you set a goal that is realistic but that doesn’t harm you? That’s what [...]

Merry Christmas

  What happens to elves when they behave naughty? Santa gives them the sack. What kind of music do elves listen to? Wrap. What says 'Oh Oh Oh'? Santa walking backwards! Who delivers presents to baby sharks at Christmas? Santa Jaws! What’s the best Christmas Present? A broken drum - you can't beat it. Why [...]

The Positive Side of Family Estrangement and Creating a Family of Choice

This series on family estrangement may seem to be a strange topic to cover during the holiday season. Yet, being separated from family during Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s is a familiar occurrence for many survivors. The purpose of these articles is to offer support to all who come to this blogsite looking for hope. [...]

Childhood Grooming By Sexual Predators

***Trigger Warning*** Child abuse is a subject many would rather sweep under the rug because it is such a vile and heinous crime against humanity. Yet, child abuse continues to happen and will continue to prevail until we bring it out of the darkness and into the light of day. The main two things child [...]

Why Do Family Estrangements Happen?

These pieces about family estrangement are part of a five-part series I am writing for the CPTSD Foundation owned by Athena Moberg where I write for their blog. This subject is important for this time of year. Shirley Family estrangement is a very grief-ridden and personal experience that family members face when someone leaves or [...]

Family Estrangement, What is It? 

All families have their squabbles and days when one member might not speak to another. However, there is one type of painful situation where the communication between family members stops; this is family estrangement. Often, family estrangement occurs when an adult child is learning to cope with and get rid of harmful people in their [...]

The Truth About and Possible Solutions to Suicide

Why do people decide they do not want to live anymore? Is it to hurt those who hurt them? Is it to escape life? Is it because they are cowards? The answer is no. People who die by suicide haven’t decided they don’t want to live, nor are they striking out at those who hurt [...]

The Problem of Racing Thoughts

Everyone experiences them once in a while especially after a restless night without sleep or under high stress. Racing thoughts are when our minds won’t shut off and we wish it would shut up. But what if racing thoughts was a way of life, something you were forced to live with every day and night [...]