Happy Birthday Gift of Voice! You’re three years old!

Gift of Voice, a group I’ve become involved in Illinois, is a wonderful group of people who are trying to raise awareness of the rights people living with a mental health condition is missing. In essence, they work hard to make the legislature of Illinois and anyone else who will listen that people who are [...]

Loving Yourself is Okay

Survivors of childhood trauma, especially those who have developed severe mental health conditions like dissociative identity disorder, borderline personality disorder, or major depressive disorder, sometimes hate themselves for who they are and where their lives have gone. To be clear, this is not something only relegated to survivors. If you took a survey on the [...]

Who Am I If I’m Not a Traumatic, Dramatic Mess?

Author's Note: I apologize ahead of time for the tone of this piece. I had to write it in the third person so that I could post it elsewhere on the internet. Learning to live with a severe mental health condition known as dissociative identity disorder is something most of those who receive its diagnosis [...]

The Past is Gone, or Is It?

Living with severe mental health issues such as dissociative identity disorder can leave people floundering in their pasts. This happens because when dissociating, it is exceedingly difficult to tell which is the “now” and what is the past. However, if we are lucky, most people living with DID after working diligently with a therapist will [...]

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: the Similarities and Differences

There is some confusion about the differences and similarities between PTSD and CPTSD. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) sound alike but although they have some similar symptoms, they are completely different disorders. In this article, we shall examine together the differences and similarities of these two life-changing diagnoses. What is [...]

The Holidays are Upon Us

The holidays, like all potentially triggering days, are for some of us a time of sorrow and depression. Living with dissociative identity disorder can make these days of the year even harder because we experience flashbacks and fear. How can we make our holidays better? I'm going to discuss a few ways I have found [...]

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Men: The Ignored Problem

With the advent of the #MeToo movement, the public has been forced to examine the horrific tragedy of women suffering at the hands of sexual predators. We have learned through marches and very public testimony of the damage women receive when their boundaries and dignity as human beings is violated. However, there is another group [...]

The Final Six Symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

In this series, we have concentrated on the symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) and highlighted how each one changes lives. This article will focus on the final six symptoms: Feeling different from other people Feeling ashamed Feeling guilty Difficulty maintaining relationships Seeking out or becoming a rescuer Feeling constantly afraid Let’s examine together [...]

Just a Quick Reminder

No matter how hard you have fought this past week or will in the one ahead. No matter how far down you go, no matter who you are or where. Remember, YOU ARE NEVER ALONE.   Shirley  

Continuing the Series on The Symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: Symptoms 13-18

In September, we have been discussing the twenty-four most common symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). We’ve discovered in pieces one and two in this series how people living with the aftereffects of severe repeated trauma often experience sleep disturbances, flashbacks, and other problems. Recapping What We Have Covered As we have already learned, [...]

Still, I Rise

The poem Still, I Rise is so iconic and full of meaning that I have adopted it as my theme. I realize Ms. Angelou was speaking of her trials as a black woman in America, but her words can translate easily into how I feel about defeating my abusers and my abusive past. I challenge [...]

Am I Real? Do I Fit Into the World? What Makes Me Stay Here?

Having dissociative identity disorder, sometimes I wake up in the morning asking myself some interesting yet devastating questions. The three self-exploring questions I’ve mentioned in the title are the biggest and hardest to answer. During National Suicide Awareness Month, I felt it appropriate to ask and attempt to answer these questions and more. Am I [...]

Discussing Another Six Symptoms of CPTSD

We began last week looking at the symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). We learned together how life-altering the symptoms of this enigmatic disorder are to the everyday lives of those who live with them. Today we are going to survey more of the symptoms and how they can affect people’s lives. First, a [...]

A Closer Look at the symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Most of us who live with the diagnosis of dissociative identity disorder also have a high probability of showing the symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder. In fact, I would say the two diagnoses go hand in hand. That is NOT to say that everyone with CPTSD has DID, but it may be true the [...]

Healing from Dissociative Identity Disorder by Going Down the Road Less Taken

I wrote the following piece for people who either do not believe in or do not understand dissociative identity disorder. Please, feel free to share this information with your therapists, families, and friends. Shirley If any of our readers have seen the movies Sybil or Split, you may think you understand what dissociative identity disorder [...]