The Difficult Road to Intimacy: Living with Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Those of us living with dissociative identity disorder most certainly live under the thumb of complex post-traumatic disorder. This piece is about learning to have a relationship despite having a traumatic past. Living with complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) is very challenging. If affects every aspect of the lives those who suffer under its symptoms. [...]

The Outer Critic, Self-Parenting and the Thirteen Steps of Healing

This series of articles has focused on emotional flashbacks. We’ve discussed how they feel, what causes them, and the turmoil they bring into relationships and lives. In this article, we will cover ways to conquer the emotional roller coaster that accompanies complex post-traumatic stress disorder and emotional flashbacks. Self-Loathing Comes from Adults that Mattered When [...]

The Tragedy of Living as a Forever Victim

I’ve been noticing a trend among those living with the diagnosis of dissociative identity disorder that is so self-defeating it begged written about here. I normally get in trouble writing things like this in the DID community, but the truth is the truth and I will not ignore that. Living as a forever victim is [...]

Identifying as a Person Rather Than a Victim

All of us have been there, we realize someone has hurt us and we feel victimized. But what happens when being a victim becomes more important than who we are a person? Is living life in victim mode healthy for us? Or is it a horrid trap? That’s what I’m going to discuss here today, [...]

Contacting Me

Hey, all. If you want to keep in touch, ask a question, and stay in touch you can email me anytime. I'm including my email address. MY EMAIL You can ask me anything because, hey, I've laid it all out there bare anyway. So, don't be shy and keep watching for new articles. I'm writing [...]

The Resentment When Healing from Dissociative Identity Disorder

I think most of us have felt the sting of resentment. In fact, I would venture to say every human being who has ever, is now, or will ever live will agree, we all have. However, when you are dealing with the horrific truths that come after diagnosis when you realize what happened to cause [...]

The Living Hell of Emotional Flashbacks

In our last article, we discussed the differences between post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). One of these dissimilarities involves the living hell of emotional flashbacks. In this piece, we shall examine the definition of emotional flashbacks and ways to manage them. Should you become overwhelmed during this piece, please stop [...]

Flashbacks; How I’ve Learned to Cope

I have posted the first article in a series that I’m writing for the CPTSD Foundation about flashbacks. Today I thought I’d tell you about my own experiences with these furrows back in time. Everyone Experiences Flashbacks Before I go into detail about my own experiences with flashbacks, let me reassure you that because you [...]

The Danger of the Wave

I wrote and posted this a few years ago. I have updated it and taken out my formatting issues. I hope you don't mind my repeating my piece, The Danger of the Wave.  There have been a lot of high-profile people dying by suicide in the past year or so. Kurt Cobain, Chester Bennington, Kate [...]

A Fun Page to Start Your Work Week

Whether you are employed or not, you will laugh at the funny stuff below. So, I dare you to frown as you read my funny page.                   Did you laugh? You are welcome! Shirley  

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Looking for Love in a Therapist’s Office

Many of my readers have lived through highly traumatic childhoods where love and affection were missing and in their stead was fear and abuse. So, when we entered our therapist’s office for the first time, we entered not as whole and confident adults, but rather as hurting children looking for what we did not receive [...]

An Inconvenient Truth; the Nasty Treatment of Folks Living with the Diagnosis by Medical Professionals

Once again, my health has failed me. A week ago, I became ill with a virus my brother brought home. He got well in three days, I have sick for a week now. Whatever the virus was that began my recent problems, it morphed into a horrible case of bronchitis. I decided yesterday (Wednesday, May [...]

Discovering Your Abilities and Your Ideal Employment

Finding a job that you enjoy can be difficult if you live with a mental health condition like complex post-traumatic disorder. This is especially true when you need to drop out of the workforce to do good self-care. I understand because I have been on disability since 1995 and have only recently thought about returning [...]

The Help That Never Came

One of the downfalls of getting into the research about dissociative identity disorder is reading things that make you cry. I recently had this experience while reading a paper on how having a caring adult intervene when a child experiences abuse is it can mitigate them from forming a mental health disorder. This includes DID. [...]