Living Life with Adult Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

We have all been in the classroom with that one child who doesn’t seem to be able to sit still. He or she fidgets constantly and talks out of turn. Their behavior has left us pondering what is wrong. Or, as a child, you can remember trying to sit still and pay attention in class, [...]

Polyvagal Theory and Healing from Childhood Trauma

Those who live with the after-effects of severe childhood trauma understand well how it feels to be continually on the lookout for danger. Some experience this as hypervigilance feeling unsafe no matter who they are with or where they are in life. Polyvagal theory does a wonderful job of explaining these responses as well as [...]

Do You Know The Difference Between Selfishness and Self-Respect

People who have a mental health condition often find themselves in relationships that require too much of them to the point that they leave themselves out of the picture. This article will focus on the differences between being selfish and having the self-respect to take care of yourself first. It Seems Counterintuitive To many, it [...]

I’ve Been Very Busy

Once again I find myself needing to apologize for my absence. My life has picked up pace and I'm away from home a lot so that means my computer is inaccessible. However, the good news is I'm finally putting my life back together after working on DID and other issues since 1990. I know, I'm [...]

Poly What? Understanding Polyvagal Theory

I apologize for not being here as much as I should but I've been very busy. I'm volunteering now three days a week and writing for the CPTSD Foundation, another group (both paid gigs), and writing grants. I'm excited to be so busy but my blog has suffered. Please, be patient with me. I will [...]

The Worst Enemies That Multiples Face

I wanted to write a personal post today about two enemies of multiples that all of us know about, but we tend not to speak about them; denial, and self-doubt. Let’s look at this subject and I’ll enclose some firsthand experiences with denial and self-doubt to show you that you are not alone. Why Am [...]

The Health Consequences of Eating Disorders

This is part two in my five-part series on eating disorders I am writing for the CPTSD Foundation.  Eating disorders (EDs) are insidiously destroying some lives and greatly restricting others. However, eating in secret and feeling guilt are not the only consequences of having an eating disorder. There is a myriad of other health problems [...]

The Wisdom of Lao Tzu

I decided to write a short post using the wisdom of Lao Tzu. Lao Tzu was a Chinese philosopher who is thought to have lived in the 6th century BCE and founded the philosophy of Taoism. Lao Tzu also was the author of Tao-Te-Ching, a work exemplifying thought. There are those who believe that Lao [...]

Eating Disorders is A Hard Subject

I've noticed that there hasn't been much response to my piece about eating disorders. To be honest, EDs are a very tough subject to think about, let alone read. However, I've never been one for hiding my head in the sand so I decided (with the help of Athena Moberg from the CPTSD Foundation) to [...]

The Introduction to Eating Disorders

This piece is the first of five pieces I am writing for the CPTSD Foundation I'll be posting this month (February 2020) about eating disorders. The term eating disorders conjures in the minds of many pictures of boy crazy teenagers who want to slim down for a prom dress or something only women have. However, [...]

The Healing Effects on the Brain from Mindfulness, Prayer, and Meditation

Previous posts have focused on how mindfulness, prayer, and meditation can help complex trauma survivors climb from the pit of despair into the sunshine of healing. In this last piece, we shall examine the neuroscience behind mindfulness, prayer, and meditation plus tie up any loose ends. Changes in the Brain from Complex Trauma Childhood trauma [...]

The Physiology of Fear

Recently, I wrote a piece about maladaptive fear and someone asked me to explain the physiology of it. Although I am certainly not an expert, and no one fully understands the physiology of fear, I shall endeavor to do my best to explain it in detail. Please, forgive me if I get something wrong and [...]

Maladaptive Fear the Most Primitive Emotion

Fear is a necessary emotion that protects humans from harm by alerting us to danger and enabling us to respond through the fight/flight/freeze/fawn response. However, when fear becomes chronic it can disable people and cripple their lives. In this article, we shall examine fear, its source, and what can go terribly wrong when it is [...]

The Awesome Power of Meditation

When one thinks of meditation some will think of someone sitting cross-legged on the floor, with fingers in a funny position, repeating a simple word or sound such as “ommm”. However, meditation is much deeper and richer a practice than just the one practice encompassing many forms. This fourth article in the mindfulness, prayer, and [...]

Contemplative Quotes

Anyone who reads my blog knows I like to end my pieces with quotes.  So, today I decided to throw together some of my favorite quotes and sayings for you today. As you read through them, don’t just scan through, and then do something else. Instead, contemplate on what each quote is saying and try [...]