Acceptance Accelerates Healing

As I and many of my readers know, healing from dissociative identity disorder takes a long time. We struggle with so many issues that it takes time to wade through them even with an excellent therapist. God knows there are many things to accept in healing from a major mental health disorder. But perhaps the [...]

Mindfulness for Healing from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Most of us who live with dissociative identity disorder also live with complex post-traumatic stress disorder so I felt this piece apt for this blog site. Mindfulness for Healing from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder All human beings have a tendency to relive trauma even decades after it has ended. Those living with the effects of [...]

Who Speaks for the Children?

This piece concentrates on how much we as a society (and yes, we survivors too) concentrate so much on our own problems that we forget the weakest among us, the children. It is time to ask ourselves the hard questions and find the hard answers to the harm our children are experiencing every day that [...]

A Beautiful Piece of Amber

I wrote this story for my therapist Paula when she retired. I read it to her and gave her a book of my writing with this story in it. I thought I'd share it with you. I realize I may have published this here before but I have many more followers than I did when [...]

Be Careful with Making Those New Year’s Resolutions for 2020

I don’t want to be a party pooper but making new year’s resolutions can be hazardous to your health. While all of us should set goals for the year ahead, setting unrealistic ones can cause stress and disappointment. So, how do you set a goal that is realistic but that doesn’t harm you? That’s what [...]

The Life-Limiting Process of Ruminating Thoughts

Living with the after-effects of childhood trauma is a daunting task. Healing can take decades and the scars remain for a lifetime. However, there are two human activities that make matters worse for those who wish to move on from an abusive childhood; ruminating. This article will examine ruminating thoughts to see what it entails [...]

The Positive Side of Family Estrangement and Creating a Family of Choice

This series on family estrangement may seem to be a strange topic to cover during the holiday season. Yet, being separated from family during Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s is a familiar occurrence for many survivors. The purpose of these articles is to offer support to all who come to this blogsite looking for hope. [...]

Childhood Grooming By Sexual Predators

***Trigger Warning*** Child abuse is a subject many would rather sweep under the rug because it is such a vile and heinous crime against humanity. Yet, child abuse continues to happen and will continue to prevail until we bring it out of the darkness and into the light of day. The main two things child [...]

Why Do Family Estrangements Happen?

These pieces about family estrangement are part of a five-part series I am writing for the CPTSD Foundation owned by Athena Moberg where I write for their blog. This subject is important for this time of year. Shirley Family estrangement is a very grief-ridden and personal experience that family members face when someone leaves or [...]

Family Estrangement, What is It? 

All families have their squabbles and days when one member might not speak to another. However, there is one type of painful situation where the communication between family members stops; this is family estrangement. Often, family estrangement occurs when an adult child is learning to cope with and get rid of harmful people in their [...]

The Truth About and Possible Solutions to Suicide

Why do people decide they do not want to live anymore? Is it to hurt those who hurt them? Is it to escape life? Is it because they are cowards? The answer is no. People who die by suicide haven’t decided they don’t want to live, nor are they striking out at those who hurt [...]

The Problem of Racing Thoughts

Everyone experiences them once in a while especially after a restless night without sleep or under high stress. Racing thoughts are when our minds won’t shut off and we wish it would shut up. But what if racing thoughts was a way of life, something you were forced to live with every day and night [...]

Forgiveness and Letting Go

Once again I apologize ahead of time for the third person writing but I wanted to share this with you as well as post it to Medium.com. Thanks for understanding. Shirley Forgiveness and Letting Go For many survivors, forgiveness is a difficult, if not impossible concept to grasp or to even acknowledge as being part [...]

No, They Will Never Win, I Won’t Let Them

**Trigger Warning: Although I do not find what I have written below to be triggering, some of you might. I’m expressing raw emotions in this piece and those can be frightening to some. Take care of yourself.** I feel this morning like sharing my soul with you once again. This time I’m going to discuss [...]

Books about Dissociative Identity Disorder, C-PTSD, and Mental Illness

I have published several books on DID and other disorders and I thought I'd take the time to advertise them here. My books are full of facts but contain no triggering information. I only wanted to write and publish books that make sense and help others living with dissociative identity disorder but not contain any [...]