Finding A Career Despite Having a Disabling Mental Health Condition

There is no doubt that working has many benefits to those of us diagnosed with a mental health issue. Being among people and socializing rather than relegating ourselves to lying on the couch watching television is only one of them. In this piece, we are going to take a stroll down the path to employment [...]

May I Vent for a Minute? Today I Need to Be Honest

Sitting here alone in the apartment, I am riddled with emotions that I do not know what to do with. It is a rare for me to have the apartment to myself and it gives me a chance to catch my breath and try to figure out what I’m going to do and how I’m [...]

Finding Self-Respect Whether You are Employed or Not

Humans acquire their self-worth from many sources. Beginning in childhood, our parents should be the first to show us both verbally and non-verbally that we are worthwhile and valuable. However, people living with the after-effects of childhood trauma and in the present with severe mental health disabilities did not have the reassurances. This lack of [...]

Reclaiming a Bucket List from the Abyss to Happiness

We all have dreams. I’m no exception. When I was a young woman, I dreamed of a much different life than I have now. Who doesn’t? I had a bucket list of things I wanted to do before I died, but sometimes life takes your dreams and aspirations and shoves them into an abyss. Let’s [...]

A Recap: Attachment Styles

In the series on attachment styles, we have covered much ground. We’ve learned about the four basic attachment styles, secure, avoidant, anxious and disorganized and how they affect adult lives. We have also covered a few of the mental health issues that can result from poor parenting. This article is the capstone of the series, [...]

Having a Disorganized Attachment Style Negatively Impacts Lives

Our readers may remember, we are doing a series on attachment styles. While no one fits neatly into one category or the other, we all have one that is dominant over the others. Attachment styles form in childhood and impact us the rest of our lives. That does not mean you cannot change how you [...]

Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment Style: An Examination of Its Causes and How It Affects Adult Relationships

As our readers may remember, we are doing a series on attachment styles. However, if you are reading my blog for the first time, I will do a little bit of review of what attachment styles are, and why knowing yours vital to your adult relationships. John Bowlby and Attachment Theory  John Bowlby was a [...]

Overcoming the Fear of Intimacy

In the last few articles, we have explored together how childhood trauma negatively impacts the ability to form lasting and loving relationships with a partner. We’ve studied the impact that having trust issues, flashbacks, loneliness, body image problems and hypervigilance play in our avoidance of allowing closeness to others. In this article, let’s talk about [...]

The Turmoil of Avoidant Attachment Style 

Your life has been a string of relationships where you crave closeness but veer away from it almost as quickly as you find it. You discover you can’t settle into a relationship with a partner because he/she either does not live up to your expectations or they are going out to spend time alone with [...]

Anxiety is Boiling in My Mind Right Now

This morning I’m going to write about my anxiety. I haven’t felt this horrible since the early 1990s when I was first in treatment for dissociative identity disorder. I constantly feel like I’m going to jump out of my skin and like something horrible is going to happen any minute. These feelings are compounded by [...]

Secure Attachment Style in Adulthood: How It Affects Your Life and Relationships

Have you ever wondered what is the motivating force it that relates to how you behave in intimate relationships and how you treat your children? Have you asked yourself how you choose the relationships that you attracted to? The leading theory in psychology today is called Attachment Theory, and for the next several weeks in [...]

The Painful Truth About Those Who Believe They are Multiples but are Not

I know I have been flooding your inboxes with some rather impersonal posts of late, so I decided to get up at 4 am (truthfully, I’ve had a med change and can’t sleep) and write about a topic that both worries and frustrates me. There are two diagnoses I’d like to cover in this piece [...]

Pulling it all together: Trauma-Informed Care

This month we have spent time exploring the basics of becoming trauma-informed. We've examined how mindfulness, neuroplasticity, and resiliency help form the tripod on which we begin to understand and defeat the consequences of surviving trauma. In this article, we are going to explore together how all the writings we’ve published this month fit into [...]

Psychotherapy: What to Expect and How to Find Help

In the last two posts, we have examined together some of the types of psychotherapy and the therapeutic alliance. In this piece, we shall explore what to and not expect in psychotherapy how to find the help you need. Important Qualities of a Great Therapist Just as there are many different types of therapists with [...]

Tools to Build Resiliency and Aid in Healing from Complex Trauma

There is a vital part of healing survivors of adverse childhood experiences who now live with complex post-traumatic stress disorder can learn to help themselves. This piece of artillery is called resilience. Resiliency can help us overcome the life-altering effects of adverse childhood experiences or repeated trauma in adulthood. It can also speed up healing [...]