Looking for Love in a Therapist’s Office

Many of my readers have lived through highly traumatic childhoods where love and affection were missing and in their stead was fear and abuse. So, when we entered our therapist’s office for the first time, we entered not as whole and confident adults, but rather as hurting children looking for what we did not receive [...]

May I Vent for a Minute? Today I Need to Be Honest

Sitting here alone in the apartment, I am riddled with emotions that I do not know what to do with. It is a rare for me to have the apartment to myself and it gives me a chance to catch my breath and try to figure out what I’m going to do and how I’m [...]

Harnessing Fear to Win

Hi everyone. I apologize for not being here yesterday, but my uncle Arthur was acting up and I was in a lot of pain. Therefore, I took care of myself. I also wanted to explain why I had reposted the article Why Our Men Are Not Okay. I originally posted it on a weekday and [...]

When Fantasy is Your Only Friend

***Possibly Triggering Material*** Growing up in an abusive home, children often find they have nowhere to go and no place to turn. So, they turn to their imaginations to help them cope. I’m writing this post out of my own experiences with the pretend world I lived in as a kid. I’ll try not to [...]

Speaking Without Saying a Word

I know everyone who reads my work can understand what I’m talking about when I say that we often tell others how we are truly feeling without saying it. We hide behind phrases like, “I’m okay”, “I’m fine” or “I’m just not feeling good, but I’ll be okay.” Why do you think this is so? [...]

Escaping from the Cage of Childhood Trauma

I’ve spent a lot of time trapped in my own morass of emotions. True, the traumatic things that happened in my childhood first put me in the quagmire of self-pity and fear I have lived in, but later in life I chose of my own volition to remain there. As an adult, I found myself [...]

The Lasting Effects of Broken Trust

Trigger Warning: The following article is full of references to abuse issues and mentions things that may be triggering to some. I do not and will not write specifics of abuse on my blog, but the emotions that even talking briefly about these issues can be upsetting. Before I begin this piece let me first [...]